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Monday, May 7, 2012

Spankos Anonymous

A reader (yes, apparently it's not just me), recently emailed me to let me know that non-registered users couldn't leave comments (thanks, Emen!). I've fixed that, so all you anonymous spankos out there can now feel free to comment as you wish.

Speaking of anonymous... When I first started on this journey, my plan was to keep things as anonymous as possible with my spankers- I don't need to know your name, your situation, what you do, etc. I would go as far as to say my ideal situation would have been whatever the spanking world's equivalent to glory holes is (back seat car spankings at the drive-in? Parties?). It would always surprise me when people on SpankFinder felt the need to give me a "real" sense of who they were. Really, you like to cycle? Great! Those muscular quads will provide me with ample cushioning while I'm over our lap. I think not, and I'm not impressed.

However, I'm starting to have a real change of heart on the subject. The Englishman and I have had such amazing sessions that I'm convinced we're spanking soul mates, if such a thing exists. I wonder how much of that is natural chemistry and how much of that is just developing a relationship outside of the bedroom. I wonder if I had given Glasses half a chance if things would have been different, or had I known that he was the type of guy I wouldn't want to hang out with outside of getting spanked, could I have avoided such a terrible experience?

There are pros and cons to both situations. While I'm enjoying the spanking bliss I'm in now, I fear the day when it has to come to an end. This is actually a part of the bigger problem I suffer from: I'm far too concerned about the future, and not about enjoying the present.

Reader(s), I'd love to hear your thoughts on the subject. Where do you stand on the spectrum of anonymity?

4 comments:

  1. You're welcome:) On anonymity, I think your feelings about it change as spankworld becomes more familiar to you. Whether that's in the actual person of a spanker you feel much closer to than you ever thought you would, or following a blog and deciding you want to comment, you don't want to just lurk anymore. As this world and its people become more familiar and recognizable I feel that it's not the shield of anonymity I need to worry about, it's relying on my feelings and instincts the same way I do in the vanlla world. Some people you are instantly delighted with, some you instantly hate with the heat of a thousand suns.

    And some can fool you.

    Good post.

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    1. Dear Emen,
      There's so much truth to your comment! I need to retrain myself when it comes to listening to my gut. So many times I've given people the benefit of the doubt- either to be polite or just not trusting myself. Thanks for your comment!

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  2. I cant say anything on anonymity (for some reason it took me forever to type that silly word!LOL) but i WILL say I too am the sort to worry about the future and miss out on the present.

    I suppose some of us are just wired that way. But I'm trying to do that less and just try and be happy RIGHT NOW!

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    1. It has been a steep learning curve for me, but one well worth going through! I feel so much more alive and I spend MUCH less time worrying!

      xo,
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