tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post1493404535694329838..comments2023-10-30T08:12:24.989-07:00Comments on Flipping SpankCakes: Finding the Courage to Live with a FetishSpankCakehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11395844586797989385noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-31263330268037901732012-11-24T23:52:50.972-08:002012-11-24T23:52:50.972-08:00Welcome to my blog, Bleuame!
self-denial, self-di...Welcome to my blog, Bleuame!<br /><br />self-denial, self-discovery, self-acceptance... we all find our own path. We love those closest to us for their acceptance of us, flawed and as-is... and it is those same reasons that allow us to love them.<br /><br />xo,<br />SCSpankCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395844586797989385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-2873241273835171972012-11-24T01:20:43.718-08:002012-11-24T01:20:43.718-08:00What an amazing post; it brought so much to my min...What an amazing post; it brought so much to my mind as I read it. I think the battle is always self-acceptance and then as a close second, accepting that those we love are how they are and just like we couldn't--they couldn't change merely to please us.<br />Bleue D'âmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12945301989408243513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-32258091008895911022012-11-23T01:13:52.999-08:002012-11-23T01:13:52.999-08:00Renee,
I would be happy to contribute in any way!...Renee,<br /><br />I would be happy to contribute in any way! And for the record, while it would be exciting for it to be published, I think your blog is plenty exciting!<br /><br />xo,<br />SCSpankCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395844586797989385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-73183110859857620122012-11-22T21:01:03.605-08:002012-11-22T21:01:03.605-08:00I also regret not accepting my kink sooner. I ema...I also regret not accepting my kink sooner. I emailed Jillian to see if she'd do a follow up interview with me about reactions to her article. If she agrees, would you be willing to allow me to quote you, or do an interview? I have no idea where I'd print the follow up article - hoping for somewhere more exciting than just my blog...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04842027321593278610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-15954084255439686812012-11-21T01:34:53.212-08:002012-11-21T01:34:53.212-08:00Well, huuuuugggss to you, too! Thanks for your su...Well, huuuuugggss to you, too! Thanks for your support...I know it seems like we are a lonely minority most of the time, so it's so good to hear from you!<br /><br />xo,<br />SCSpankCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395844586797989385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-89606434038879978432012-11-19T21:33:53.657-08:002012-11-19T21:33:53.657-08:00I want to hug you. (and maybe pinch your ass too, ...I want to hug you. (and maybe pinch your ass too, but still) You're not alone. But you know that. More importantly, you're among the bravest and most self-fulfilling of the many folks out there that are in your (and my) situation. And that blueberry pancake on the pink bottom still makes me chuckle. The gayest thing in spankingblogdom is when someone says "huuuugggss!" but I get it. Fistbump. Hug. Asspinch. Kiss on the forehead. Then a wink. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-80141773400417080822012-11-18T21:30:58.135-08:002012-11-18T21:30:58.135-08:00Thank you so much, Hermione... I appreciate your s...Thank you so much, Hermione... I appreciate your support and friendship very much...never taking it for granted.<br /><br />xo,<br />SCSpankCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395844586797989385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-56483021865636133262012-11-18T11:31:33.604-08:002012-11-18T11:31:33.604-08:00I echo the intelligent comments above and add my o...I echo the intelligent comments above and add my own support and friendship.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />HermioneHermionehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15395671806340391253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-26386654801025499092012-11-17T03:37:04.577-08:002012-11-17T03:37:04.577-08:00Glad I could share it with you... it's a great...Glad I could share it with you... it's a great article!<br /><br />xo,<br />SCSpankCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395844586797989385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-43767461615369449192012-11-17T03:36:14.288-08:002012-11-17T03:36:14.288-08:00Thank you, Saoirse, and welcome to the blog! &quo...Thank you, Saoirse, and welcome to the blog! "Courageous" seems like such a large word to describe someone who does so anonymously... but it never feels that way when one shares so much.<br /><br />xo,<br />SCSpankCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395844586797989385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-72140011249825914772012-11-17T03:34:15.137-08:002012-11-17T03:34:15.137-08:00Thank you, Kaelah... Life is not easy, both simple...Thank you, Kaelah... Life is not easy, both simple and complicated at the same time. While there is great sadness in my situation, I have found a great joy as I calibrate the perfect balance between both lives.<br /><br />xo,<br />SCSpankCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395844586797989385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-53767146534444907832012-11-16T15:42:21.312-08:002012-11-16T15:42:21.312-08:00And thanks, SpankCake-I would have missed this art...And thanks, SpankCake-I would have missed this article if you hadn't posted. As mom, wife, daughter to an elderly father, grandmother, friend, day job/night job/dream job person-I rarely see a newspaper of newscast. (I remember fondly my days as a single woman with The New York Times) Thanks!Saoirsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17902009529171140806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-86799777495826823462012-11-16T15:35:02.521-08:002012-11-16T15:35:02.521-08:00I'm nodding my head at the previous comments. ...I'm nodding my head at the previous comments. All are right on. You are a courageous lady. So many people can't even begin to be honest about their lives. I wish you the best-take good care of you and move forward as you need. Indeed, there is always a cost, always compromise. Blessed be.Saoirsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17902009529171140806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-48268622838935910212012-11-16T08:20:19.842-08:002012-11-16T08:20:19.842-08:00That's a really tough situation you and all th...That's a really tough situation you and all the others involved are in, SC! And one where there isn't any easy solution. So, I can understand your sadness. But still I hope and believe that time will work for you and that you will be able to find a good path (or, as Zee put it, "write the ending you want and need"). As Erica already mentioned, one always has to make compromises. I am sure that your ability to be so open and honest about your thoughts and feelings will help you to find your way. Just take good care of yourself during the journey.Kaelahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108718924415630397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-49340287612616352212012-11-16T02:51:54.183-08:002012-11-16T02:51:54.183-08:00Zee,
You are so sweet to say so...your words are ...Zee,<br /><br />You are so sweet to say so...your words are almost convincing enough to make me believe them... I hope someday soon I will come to the same conclusion. Thank you so much for your support... it means the world to me.<br /><br />xo,<br />SCSpankCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395844586797989385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-68106893347594092832012-11-15T20:19:29.892-08:002012-11-15T20:19:29.892-08:00Happily Ever Never is a very long time. And I'...Happily Ever Never is a very long time. And I'm pretty sure you are brave enough, strong enough, and smart enough to write the ending you want and need. <br /><br />ZeeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-7952547172553482822012-11-15T01:39:06.040-08:002012-11-15T01:39:06.040-08:00Thank you, Joey... that means a lot coming from yo...Thank you, Joey... that means a lot coming from you!<br /><br />xo,<br />SCSpankCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395844586797989385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-15125866911252862062012-11-15T01:35:04.471-08:002012-11-15T01:35:04.471-08:00SC,
Your post is very open and honest and brave. ...SC,<br /><br />Your post is very open and honest and brave. <br /><br />Big Hug,<br />joeyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-76622865001844213172012-11-14T23:59:44.210-08:002012-11-14T23:59:44.210-08:00Thank you, Lea. Life moves much more swiftly afte...Thank you, Lea. Life moves much more swiftly after 21... It seems I have learned to appreciate what I have as well as the things I don't have.<br /><br />xo,<br />SCSpankCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395844586797989385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-9761649990034737352012-11-14T23:57:11.461-08:002012-11-14T23:57:11.461-08:00Erica,
I cannot help but love you for the kindnes...Erica,<br /><br />I cannot help but love you for the kindness you show me with your words. Thank you, friend.<br /><br />xo,<br />SCSpankCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395844586797989385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-60984905018773666572012-11-14T23:52:43.032-08:002012-11-14T23:52:43.032-08:00^^ what Erica said. I know how getting a bit of a ...^^ what Erica said. I know how getting a bit of a good thing can feel and leave one wanting for more. It can be really, really hard. I wish it could all fit together perfectly for you. Do whatever is best for you.<br /><br />Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08935712285136696225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1021737965091299118.post-44810268441566763712012-11-14T23:13:38.381-08:002012-11-14T23:13:38.381-08:00Dear SC -- you and Ms. Keenan have courage in comm...Dear SC -- you and Ms. Keenan have courage in common. This post was incredibly brave and honest, and I admire you so much for it.<br /><br />Many of us don't come to terms with our kink when it's most convenient, or when we're young enough to make life decisions over it. I certainly didn't.<br /><br />You are in a quandary, certainly. And some will judge, I'm sorry to say. SCREW THEM. And please, don't judge yourself, either. You are who you are, and you need what you need. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.<br /><br />Just remember one more thing -- there are no guaranteed happy endings. Partners who share kink as well as love aren't a perfect picnic either. There's always compromise. But somehow, we forge our ways. We find what works. What we let go, and what we keep.<br /><br />Any small-minded judgment notwithstanding, you have also opened yourself up to support and understanding. Be proud of that.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.com